Does your spouse regularly dismiss or minimize your feelings when you try to express concerns? *

Never or rarely

Sometimes

Often

Almost always

When you achieve something positive, does your spouse typically:

Celebrate and support you genuinely

Show mild interest but quickly change the subject

Find ways to diminish or criticize your achievement

Make it about themselves or their own accomplishments

How often does your spouse admit they were wrong or genuinely apologize for their mistakes?

Regularly and sincerely

Occasionally

Rarely, and usually with conditions

Never or only fake apologies

Does your spouse believe they are superior to most other people?

No, they're quite humble

Sometimes they can be arrogant

Yes, they often express this belief

Absolutely, they constantly put others down

When you disagree with your spouse, do they:

Listen and try to understand your perspective

Get defensive but eventually discuss it

Become angry and punish you for disagreeing

Make you question your own memory or sanity

How does your spouse react when you set boundaries or say "no" to something they want?

They respect your boundaries

They're disappointed but accept it

They pressure you until you give in

They rage, punish you, or make you pay for it

Does your spouse take credit for your ideas, accomplishments, or hard work?

Never

Rarely

Sometimes

Frequently or always

When your spouse is upset with you, do they:

Talk it through calmly

Give you some space then discuss it

Give you the silent treatment or withhold affection

Explode in rage or punish you for days/weeks

How often does your spouse make you feel like you're "walking on eggshells"?

Never

Occasionally during stressful times

Frequently

Constantly

Does your spouse believe rules don't apply to them?

No, they follow rules and social norms

Sometimes they bend rules

Often they feel entitled to special treatment

They consistently believe they're above rules and consequences

When you're sick, hurt, or going through a difficult time, does your spouse:

Show genuine care and support

Offer basic help but seem uncomfortable

Show minimal concern or make it about them

Become angry that you're not available to meet their needs

Has your spouse ever made you question your own memory, perception, or sanity?

Never

Maybe once or twice

Sometimes

Frequently

Does your spouse expect special treatment or privileges that others don't get?

No, they treat everyone fairly

Occasionally they expect preferential treatment

Often they demand special consideration

Always, they believe they deserve the best of everything

How does your spouse handle criticism or feedback?

They listen and consider it thoughtfully

They get defensive but eventually reflect on it

They become angry and blame you or others

They rage and make you pay for criticizing them

Does your spouse use your children, finances, or other important things to control or manipulate you?

Never

Rarely

Sometimes when they're very upset

Frequently as a way to get what they want

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