Divorce changes more than your relationship status.

It shifts your identity, confidence, routines, emotions, and future plans.

This quick quiz will help you identify the phase you’re currently navigating and what may help you move forward with more clarity and confidence.

Who asked for the divorce?

He did and I didn't want it.

Honestly, it doesn't matter anymore. We both grew in different directions and that's okay.

He did

It was mostly mutual

I did

When you think about your ex how do you feel?

I feel like an idiot because I didn't see it coming.

Intrusive thoughts about "accidentally" CC'ing his mother on my therapy notes.

I've been stockpiling Kleenex because I feel really sad when I think about my ex. I miss him and our life together.

Who?

Genuinely neutral. He's just someone I used to know, and I wish him well.

What frustrates you the most about being divorced?

Nothing really frustrates me anymore. Divorce was hard, but it taught me so much about myself and what I truly want.

That I was ALL IN on our life, our vows, and he bailed.

That I'm devastatingly alone… after everything I put up with.

Seeing how happy he is. I want to move on with my life but I can't get him out of my head.

Turns out divorce is just the plot twist I needed. Now I get to be the hot widow in a Nora Ephron movie, except nobody died.

How do you feel about dating?

I haven't found anyone that compares to my ex.

I'm open to it when the right person comes along, but I'd rather be alone than with the wrong guy

Yes, I started dating immediately. Nothing says "I'm fine" like a 2am Hinge spiral and a date with someone whose profile pic is them holding a fish.

I'm not ready. I need to focus on myself for now.

I still believe in love and want to find my match, but the dating pool is currently 60% gym selfies and 40% guys who think "entrepreneur" means "unemployed with a podcast."

How do you feel about romantic love right now?

Love stinks. My ex is with someone new and he's so happy I can't stand it. I want that for myself.

I want butterflies in my stomach again, but the thought of dating is way too scary.

I keep dating, but it seems like all the good men are either married, gay, or as emotionally unavailable as a Stop sign.

I'm excited about it, but I don't need it to feel complete. I know what I bring to the table and I'm not settling for crumbs ever again.

I know I want to find love again, but I don't trust myself yet not to settle.

How would you describe the emotional state of your last relationship?

It was what it was – we had good times and hard times. I've learned from both and I'm grateful for the clarity.

Fight Club - we were constantly bickering and instigating fights.

Anger Mismanagement - there was always tension in the air and we communicated exclusively through heavy sighs and passive-aggressive dishwasher loading.

Communication Breakdown - there was no vulnerability and one or both of us were afraid of communicating openly.

Shutdown - we just shut down and acted more like roommates than partners. Roommates who secretly resented each other's Netflix choices.

What about your relationship with your ex gives you a sense of gratitude?

I am grateful for it all. I know that everything happened as it needed to and I wouldn't change anything.

The good memories. Not everything was a waste of time.

All of it. The lessons, the growth, and the woman I've become because of it. I wouldn't be here without that chapter.

Not a darn thing. Well, maybe his HBO Max password. I'm keeping that.

That we got along most of the time…like roommates.

What helps you cope with your divorce?

12-hour days at the office and as much gym time as possible.

My gratitude journal, exercising, and other self-care rituals.

Red wine, Bridgerton, and aggressively reorganizing my spice rack

Talking it out with friends, family, my therapist, the barista, my Uber driver, that woman at Target who made eye contact..

I don't need to cope anymore – I've processed it, healed from it, and moved forward. Now I just live my life to the fullest.

Relationship-wise, where do you see yourself in 5 years?

Happy. Whether that's partnered or solo, I know I'll be living a life I'm proud of and surrounded by people who truly value me.

Dating and loving it.

In a healthy, committed, loving relationship.

With someone ten times hotter than my ex, casually running into him at Whole Foods while I'm glowing and he's buying sad bachelor food.

Alone.

What is most important to you right now?

That I keep moving forward and becoming a better version of myself.

I just want to be over it all already.

My revenge body, my revenge life, and my revenge husband who will be taller, richer, and actually know where the hamper is.

I need closure from him.

Living authentically, pursuing my passions, and building a life that feels true to who I really am – not who I thought I had to be.