What’s the first thing you usually do when you wake up?
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Grab my phone and scroll. Anything to avoid feeling.
Mentally run through my to-do list before I even get out of bed.
Try to start intentionally, but often fall into old patterns.
Check on everyone else and start problem-solving.
Tidy up, check my calendar, and get into gear. No time for slowness.
How connected do you feel to your body and emotions?
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I feel everything all at once and try to push through.
I’m learning to pause and actually feel, not just manage.
Honestly, I rarely notice either.
Tight. Heavy. I carry everyone else’s weight.
Monitored, managed, and expected to look a certain way.
Your relationship to rest is...
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I’m learning to rest without guilt, but it’s still a challenge.
I crash, not rest. I don’t remember what rest feels like.
I schedule rest, but it usually feels like performance.
I avoid it. It makes me feel guilty or useless.
I sleep, but never feel replenished.
How do you feel about your current parenting style?
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I’m present physically, but emotionally I’m on autopilot.
I give everything I have, but still feel like I’m failing them
I aim to parent consciously, but I catch myself repeating old patterns.
I’m constantly managing chaos. Connection feels hard to access
I want to be the “perfect mom” and beat myself up when I’m not.
What role does guilt play in your life?
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I feel guilty for everything I don’t finish.
I reflect, feel, and try to choose a different path.
It’s a constant background noise.
I make sure no one sees the mess. I hide my guilt under perfection.
I blame myself, but numb it out. I don’t want to feel it.
When it comes to your goals...
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I set goals, crush them, and still feel empty.
I have a vision, but living it consistently is the challenge.
I set “impressive” goals that match what people expect of me.
I’ve lost sight of them. I’m just trying to get through the week.
I don’t even know what my goals are anymore.
Your relationship with your partner feels...
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I want more depth and intimacy, but don’t always know how to ask.
Functional. I carry more, but don’t say anything.
Surface-level. We rarely have time or energy for depth.
Fine from the outside, but I hide how I’m really doing.
Like we’re on parallel tracks. Not really connecting.
What’s your go-to coping mechanism when you're overwhelmed?
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Listen to growth podcasts, but don’t always apply what I learn.
Do something for someone else to stay busy.
Numb out with TV, food, or scrolling.
Reorganize, clean, or throw myself into tasks.
Curate my life. Obsess over routines or appearances.
When your house or environment feels chaotic, you...
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Clean it quietly while silently resenting everyone else.
Shut down. I can’t even deal
Try to ground myself first, then respond. Still a practice.
Fix it immediately. I can’t focus unless everything looks perfect.
Bark orders or organize in a flurry of activity.
What’s your relationship with control?
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I’m learning to surrender, but part of me still wants to grip.
I micromanage everything. It’s the only way I can function.
I stay in control of my image, schedule, and emotions at all costs
I manage it quietly. I keep everyone’s lives running.
I feel out of control, so I shut down instead.
When you look in the mirror, you mostly feel...
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Critical. I notice what needs to be fixed.
Disconnected. I don’t really look.
Frustrated. I wish I had more time for myself.
Neutral or kind, depending on the day.
Tired. Like I’m disappearing.
If you were to describe your days, your honest answer would be…
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A bit restless. I know I’m meant for more than this loop. Evolving. It’s messy but real.
Non-stop and overwhelming. I’m always behind and can’t shut off.
Repetitive and draining, but I don't let myself show it.
A blur. I don’t remember most of them.
Full but flat. It looks managed, but joy is missing.
The version of you that feels most natural is…
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Quiet, steady, and behind the scenes.
Giving, capable, always there for others.
Focused, productive, and in motion.
In control, polished, and prepared.
Expressive, intuitive, and open to what’s next.