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When you think about having sex, you *

I feel excited! I genuinely like having sex and want more.

B. Honestly, I’m usually too tired or overwhelmed to even think about it.

I’m curious but not always sure what I like or want, or how to get there.

I miss wanting sex the way I used to. That part of me feels far away now.

When your partner initiates sex, what is most likely to happen *

I am usually receptive, or I know what helps me shift into the mood.

My mind goes to how tired I am or everything I still need to do.

Part of me is interested, but I am unsure about what I want or how to respond.

I often feel disconnected from them and bored with our sex life so not very interested.

Imagine you and your partner have an entire weekend away. No work, no kids, no responsibilities. What sounds most like you? *

I would already have a few fun ideas about how we could spend the weekend

I would need the first day to sleep, decompress, and feel human again.

I would be excited to explore, but I might not know what to suggest or where to begin

I would hope the time away could help us find some of the chemistry we used to have.

How well do you know what genuinely turns you on? *

I know my body well and can usually identify what I want.

I am still figuring it out. I often know more about what I do not want than what I do want.

I used to feel more connected to what turned me on, but lately I have lost touch with it.

How comfortable are you asking for what you want during sex? *

I feel comfortable giving direction, asking for what I want, and talking about what feels good.

I do okay, but when I am exhausted, talking about sex feels like one more thing I have to manage

I struggle to ask because I am not always sure what I want—or I worry about saying it wrong.

I have stopped asking for much because sex between us has become predictable, disconnected, or disappointing.

What usually happens once sexual touch has already begun? *

I tend to become engaged quickly and enjoy connecting.

My body may respond, but it takes time for my mind and nervous system to let go of the day.

I sometimes become aroused, but I have trouble understanding what is happening in my body or what I need next.

Even when my body responds, I feel emotionally absent or disconnected from the experience.

When you fantasize about sex, which statement fits you best?

I have fantasies and enjoy imagining—or trying—new things.

My brain is so full of responsibilities that sexual fantasies rarely have room to show up.

I am curious about fantasy, but I sometimes feel awkward, unsure, or afraid that what turns me on is strange.

My fantasies often feel more exciting than the sex I am actually having.

What has changed most about your desire over time? *

My desire is still present, although I want to keep expanding what is possible for me.

The more responsibility I have taken on, the harder it has become to access desire.

I am not sure my desire changed as much as I never fully learned how it works

I used to feel more sensual, playful, or sexually alive than I do now.

Which statement best describes the role emotional connection plays in your sex life? *

Emotional connection makes sex better, but I can still access my desire and communicate what I need

I want connection, but I am often too depleted to be fully present for it.

I sometimes have trouble telling the difference between emotional closeness, sexual attraction, and physical arousal.

When I do not feel seen, appreciated, or connected to my partner, my desire tends to disappear.

What is most likely to stop you from initiating sex? *

I am generally comfortable initiating when I want sex

By the time I have a moment to myself, I have nothing left in the tank.

I worry about feeling awkward, being rejected, or not knowing how to start.

I do not initiate because the spark between us no longer feels the way it once did.

If you could magically change one thing about your sex life, what would it be? *

I would deepen the intimacy, pleasure, and variety I already have.

I would have enough energy and space to actually want sex again.

I would understand my body, my turn-ons, and how to express what I want.

I would bring back the passion, playfulness, and connection that have faded.

Which sentence best describes where you are right now? *

I have a good relationship with my desire, and I am ready to take my sex life to the next level

My desire is buried beneath stress, responsibility, and exhaustion.

I know there is more available to me sexually, and I need help discovering what I want and how my desire works.

I miss the hot girl version of myself who loved having sex I and I want to find her again.