I am comfortable telling people I am separated from my love partner *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I am physically and emotionally exhausted from morning until night *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I am constantly thinking of my former love partner *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I feel rejected by many of the friends I had when I was in the love relationship *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I become upset when I think about my Ex *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I like being the person I am *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I feel like crying because I feel so sad *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I can communicate with my Ex in a calm and rational manner *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

There are many things about my personaIity I would like to change *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

It is easy for me to accept my becoming a single person *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I feel depressed *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I feel emotionally separated from my Ex *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

People would not like me if they got to know me *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I feel comfortable seeing and talking to my Ex *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I feel like I am an attractive person *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I feel as though I am in a daze and the world doesn't seem real *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I find myself doing things just to please my Ex *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I feel lonely *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

There are many things about my body I would like to change *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I have many plans and goals for the future *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I feel I don't have much sex appeal *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I am relating and interacting in many new ways with people since my separation *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

Joining a singles group would make me feel I was a loser like them *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

It is easy for me to organize my daily routine of living *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I find myself making excuses to see and talk to my Ex *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

Because my love relationship failed, I must be a failure *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I feel like unloading my feelings of anger and hurt upon my Ex *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I feel comfortable being with people *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I have trouble concentrating *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I think of my Ex as related to me rather than as a separate person *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I feel like an okay person *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I hope my Ex is feeling as much or more emotional pain than I am *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I have close friends who know and understand me *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I am unable to control my emotions *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I feel capable of building a deep and meaningful love relationship *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I have trouble sleeping *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I easily become angry at my Ex *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I am afraid to trust people who might become love partners *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

Because my love relationship ended, I feel there must be something wrong with me *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I either have no appetite or eat continuously which is unusual for me *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I don't want to accept the fact that our love relationship is ending *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I force myself to eat even though I'm not hungry *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I have given up on my Ex and getting back together *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I feel very frightened inside *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

It is important that my family, friends, and associates be on my side rather than on my Ex's side *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I feel uncomfortable even thinking about dating *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I feel capable of living the kind of life I would like to live *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I have noticed my body weight is changing a great deal *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I believe if we try, my love partner and I can save our love relationship *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

My abdomen feels empty and hollow *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I have feelings of romantic love for my Ex *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I can make the decisions I need to because I know and trust my feelings *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I would like to get even with my Ex for hurting me *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I avoid people even though I want and need friends *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I have really made a mess of my life *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I sigh a lot *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I believe it is best for all concerned to have our love relationship end *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I perform my daily activities in a mechanical and unfeeling manner *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I become upset when I think about my love partner having a love relationship with someone else *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I feel capable of facing and dealing with my problems *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I blame my Ex for the failure of our love relationship *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I am afraid of becoming sexually involved with another person *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I feel adequate as a fe/male love partner *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

It will only be a matter of time until my love partner and I get back together *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I feel detached and removed from activities around me as though I were watching them on a movie screen *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I would like to continue having a sexual relationship with my Ex *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

Life is somehow passing me by *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I feel comfortable going by myself to a public place such as a movie *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

It is good to feel alive again after having felt numb and emotionally dead *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I feel I know and understand myself *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I feel emotionally committed to my Ex *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I want to be with people but I feel emotionally distant from them *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I am the type of person I would like to have for a friend *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I am afraid of becoming emotionally close to another love partner *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

Even on the days when I am feeling good, I may suddenly become sad and start crying *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I can't believe our love relationship is ending *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I become upset when I think about my love partner dating someone *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I have a normal amount of self-confidence *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

People seem to enjoy being with me *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

Morally and spiritually, I believe it is wrong for our love relationship to end *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I wake up in the morning feeling there is no good reason to get out of bed *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I find myself daydreaming about all the good times I had with my love partner *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

People want to have a love relationship with me because I feel like a lovable person *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I want to hurt my Ex by letting him/her know how much I hurt emotionally *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I feel comfortable going to social events even though I am single *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I feel guilty about my love relationship ending *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I feel emotionally insecure *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I feel uncomfortable even thinking about having a sexual relationship *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I feel emotionally weak and helpless *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I think about ending my life with suicide *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I understand the reasons why our love relationship did not work out *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I feel comfortable having my friends know our love relationship is ending *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I am angry about the things my Ex has been doing *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I feel like I am going crazy *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I am unable to perform sexually *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I feel as though I am the only single person in a couples-only society *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I feel like a single person rather than a married person *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I feel my friends look at me as unstable now that I'm separated *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I daydream about being with and talking to my Ex *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

I need to improve my feelings of self-worth about being a wo/man *

Almost Always

Usually

Sometimes

Seldom

Almost Never

What is your gender? *

Female

Male

Prefer not to say

Do you have kids? *

None

0-5 years old

6-12 years old

13-18 years old

19 or older

What do you do during normal work hours? *

Stay at home parent

Physical/Active type of job

Managerial job

Desk Job

Not currently working/Other

Where are you in the divorce process? *

Considering divorce

In the divorce process

Divorced

Did you initiate the divorce? *

Yes

It was mutual

How long were you or have you been married? *

0 to 5 years

6 to 10 years

11 to 15 years

16 to 20 years

21 years or more

How long ago did you get divorce or when do you expect to be divorced? *

0 to 1 year ago

1 -2 years ago

2-5 years ago

6 or more years ago

In the next month

Sometime this year

Not sure

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Did you/do you have many friends or family to talk to and support you during your divorce and soon after? (optional but very helpful)

Yes

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Last Name

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