Q1: Someone close to you is clearly upset, but they insist they're "fine." What happens for you? *

I immediately start thinking about what I can do to help or improve things.

I can feel the emotional tension even if nothing is being said directly.

I try to keep the interaction calm and avoid making things heavier.

I start thinking ahead about what might happen if the issue isn't addressed.

Q2: When tension starts building in a relationship, your instinct is usually to: *

Find a solution so the issue gets resolved quickly.

Adjust yourself to keep things smooth and avoid escalation.

Stay emotionally steady and quietly carry the weight of the situation.

Monitor yourself carefully so you don't come across badly or make things worse.

Q3: In emotionally difficult situations, people often experience you as: *

The person who steps in and takes charge.

The person who listens and emotionally holds space.

The person who keeps everyone connected and okay.

The person who quietly gives more than they should.

Q4: When someone is struggling emotionally, what feels hardest for you? *

Watching the problem continue without trying to help fix it.

Feeling their emotions so strongly that it affects you too.

Risking conflict or awkwardness by saying something difficult.

Not knowing what might happen next or how things will unfold.

Q5: In group settings, you tend to become: *

The organiser or person making sure things are handled properly.

The person tracking everyone's emotional state.

The easygoing one who avoids creating tension.

The person who adjusts themselves to make things easier for everyone else.

Q6: When something needs to get done, your default thought is usually: *

"I'll just handle it myself."

"I should make sure everyone else is okay first."

"I need to think ahead so nothing gets missed."

"I can probably make this situation better."

Q7: What tends to exhaust you most over time? *

Feeling responsible for solving everyone's problems.

Carrying emotional weight without expressing your own needs.

Always being the reliable one others depend on.

Constantly monitoring yourself to avoid being "too much."

Q8: When you're overwhelmed, your instinct is usually to: *

Push through and stay functional.

Focus on what everyone else needs first.

Keep things calm so no additional tension gets created.

Plan, organise, or mentally prepare even more.

Q9: Which situation creates the most discomfort for you? *

Watching someone struggle when you know you could help.

Feeling emotionally disconnected or misunderstood.

Knowing someone may be disappointed or upset with you.

Feeling unprepared or uncertain about what's coming next.

Q10: When responsibilities are shared, you often find yourself: *

Taking over because you trust your own standards more.

Quietly absorbing more than your fair share without mentioning it.

Trying to prevent tension or imbalance between everyone involved.

Thinking ahead about everything that could go wrong.

Q11: What feels most uncomfortable for you emotionally? *

Letting things unfold without stepping in.

Expressing your own emotional needs openly.

Creating tension or upsetting someone.

Being seen as difficult, needy, or "too much."

Q12: When making decisions, what most influences you?

What will create the best outcome.

What will keep things stable and manageable.

What other people may need or feel.

What could potentially happen later.

Q13: What do you tend to hide most from other people? *

How emotionally affected you actually are.

How exhausted or overwhelmed you feel.

Your real opinions, needs, or preferences.

Your frustration about carrying so much responsibility.

Q14: Which statement feels most true for you? *

I feel more relaxed when I know things are handled properly.

I often notice and adapt to what others need before they ask.

I spend a lot of time mentally preparing for things in advance.

I try hard to be easy to be around.

Q15: At your core, what are you most craving right now? *

To feel supported instead of always responsible.

To feel emotionally held too, not just relied on.

To express yourself honestly without fearing disconnection.

To feel accepted without needing to edit yourself.

Q16: Almost there. Read each of these and choose the one that feels most like you: *

"I feel most responsible when something's wrong and I'm not fixing it."

"I absorb other people's emotions even when I don't want to."

"Keeping the peace feels more important than saying what I actually think."

"If I don't do it properly, I'd rather just do it myself."

"I'm always mentally preparing for what might go wrong."

"I put everyone else's needs before my own without really thinking about it."

"I work hard to make sure I'm not too much for the people around me."

Nearly there!

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