Self-Assessment Quiz Instructions

Choose the answer that best represents YOU for each question. The options will be labeled A, B, C, or D.
At the end of the quiz, please enter your information (name and email). Once completed, you will receive an email with your quiz results and a brief explanation for each of your answers.

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Dr. Michael Sue

1. When someone crosses your boundaries, what would be your usual response? *

A. You build a brick wall with a moat to keep them out of your life.

B. You communicate discomfort clearly and respectfully, explaining the impact, and requesting the behavior to stop.

C. You ignore the behavior to avoid confrontation and keep peace.

D. You assertively state the boundary violation and its effect while asking the person to refrain from the behavior.

2. How do you know if your boundaries are too rigid? *

A. You avoid close relationships altogether.

B. You feel isolated and struggle to form close relationships due to excessive self-protection.

C. You frequently disconnect from others and are reluctant to compromise or accept support.

D. You never feel guilty or anxious about being confrontational when maintaining your boundaries.

3. How do you know if your boundaries are too lax? *

A. You rarely experience resentment and frustration in your relationships.

B. You hardly ever need to think about your own needs because you're constantly focusing on others.

C. You always feel perfectly comfortable and never need to assert yourself.

D. You often feel exhausted and overwhelmed because you are always saying yes.

4. How assertive are you in maintaining boundaries? *

A. You clearly communicate your limits and stand by them, even if it’s uncomfortable.

B. You occasionally express your boundaries but sometimes compromise them to avoid conflict.

C. You occasionally express your boundaries but sometimes compromise them to avoid conflict.

D. You maintain boundaries by using a superhero cape to ward off boundary-crossers.

5. How do you respond if someone repeatedly violates your boundaries despite clear communication? *

A. You avoid setting any boundaries to prevent future conflicts and ensure a smooth relationship.

B. You enforce consequences such as reducing contact or seeking support if boundaries are continually ignored.

C. You set firm limits and consider further steps to protect yourself if violations persist.

D. You ignore the violations and hope the person will eventually understand your boundaries.

6. How can you maintain boundaries in an online social world? *

A. Share all of your personal details publicly so everyone knows where you stand.

B. You remain available only to your close friends, so you always stay updated on their lives.

C. You set guidelines for online availability and privacy and are upfront about communication preferences.

D. You establish rules for digital interactions and use privacy settings to control contact.

7. How do you deal with guilt when you are setting healthy boundaries? *

A. You try to justify your guilt by convincing yourself that you’re being too hard on yourself and that it’s okay to ignore your boundaries.

B. You lend a friend $20 and never ask to be repaid to avoid losing the friendship.

C. You understand that respecting your limits is crucial for health and seek support to manage guilt.

D. You acknowledge your guilt and remind yourself that setting boundaries is essential for your well-being.

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