How conscious are you in your Relationships?

Identify your Conscious Connection Quotient™ now 👇🏻

🌸 Start the Quiz >>>

Welcome to the

Conscious Connection Quiz™ 🌸

First Name *

Last Name *

Email *

Phone

Dear Beautiful Soul 🌸,

Knowing your Conscious Connection Quotient (CCQ™) is a powerful first step toward creating the kind of love and connection that feels deeply aligned, emotionally safe, and fully free. 🌿

Most of us weren’t taught how to truly connect—with ourselves or others. We inherited patterns: over-functioning to feel worthy, staying quiet to keep the peace, or confusing self-sacrifice with love.

This quiz is designed to help you see how you're currently showing up in relationships, where you may be giving away your power, and what’s keeping you from feeling seen, supported, and secure.

Once you understand your connection style, you can begin to shift it—gently, consciously, and with compassion.

You’ll gain the self-awareness, clarity, and emotional insight to begin relating in a way that honors your truth, values your boundaries, and allows you to experience the freedom of being fully you in your relationships. I call it the You Inside You.

Take a deep breath—you’re not here to fix yourself. You’re here to remember who you are and connect from that place.

💕 Much love - Trine

Discover Your Relationship Style 🌸

Instructions: Answer each statement as honestly as possible. Choose the option that reflects what you most often feel or do in close relationships. 💕

PART 1: Self-awareness & Emotional Regulation

1. When I’m emotionally triggered, I… *

React fast — I feel overwhelmed or shut down

Try to calm down but often stay stuck in the emotion

Reflect and take responsibility for my triggers before responding

Stay grounded and use the moment as an opportunity to understand myself

2. I recognize when I’m falling into limiting beliefs like "I’m not lovable" or "People always leave." *

Rarely

Sometimes

Often

Almost always

3. I know the difference between what I feel and what others are projecting. *

I often confuse the two

I sometimes notice the difference

I’m usually aware

I’m very clear and can separate them well

PART 2: Needs, Boundaries & Accountability

4. When I need something in a relationship, I… *

Hope they figure it out

Drop hints or get resentful

Ask directly, but with care

Communicate clearly and confidently, without guilt

5. When conflict arises, I… *

Avoid it or shut down

Get defensive or lash out

Try to resolve it with empathy and logic

Stay present, own my part, and co-create a solution

6. I take responsibility for how I contribute to relationship dynamics. *

Rarely — I feel like others are to blame

Sometimes, when I reflect after the fact

Most of the time, even during the moment

Always — it’s a core part of how I grow

PART 3: Communication & Connection Style

7. When communicating, I… *

Withhold or explode — it’s hard to find the middle

Try to be clear but often get emotional or unclear

Speak honestly with care

Listen deeply, speak vulnerably, and stay open

8. I express my boundaries by… *

Avoiding conflict or staying silent

Being reactive or waiting until I’m overwhelmed

Using “I” statements when needed

Proactively setting clear boundaries from self-love

9. I feel most connected in a relationship when…

The other person validates me

There’s no conflict or tension

We talk openly and feel safe with each other

Both of us are authentic, free, and committed to growth

PART 4: Empathy, Compassion & Conscious Conflict

When someone is struggling emotionally, I…

Try to fix it or make them feel better so I can feel better

Take on their feelings and lose myself

Empathize while staying grounded in myself

Hold space while honoring their process and my boundaries

In emotionally charged moments, we often fall into patterns that quietly erode connection. Relationship expert Dr. John Gottman identified four of the most damaging behaviors in relationships—known as The Four Horsemen:

Criticism: Attacking your partner’s character instead of addressing a specific behavior (e.g., “You never think about anyone but yourself.”)
Defensiveness: Denying responsibility, making excuses, or counterattacking to protect yourself
Contempt: Speaking with sarcasm, mockery, or disrespect—often rooted in a sense of superiority
Stonewalling: Withdrawing from interaction, shutting down, or emotionally checking out during conflict

Recognizing these in yourself or others is the first step to shifting toward healthier, more conscious communication.

11. I can spot the 4 Horsemen (criticism, contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling)…

Not really — I tend to be caught in those patterns

I notice them after the fact

I catch them in the moment and work to shift

I actively avoid them and repair quickly when they show up

Great job! 🌼

Let's see the results...