Find My Phase Quiz

Healing yOUR Life is built around the belief that sustainable personal growth has to fit your actual life - your capacity, responsibilities, needs, and the kind of support that helps you follow through.

This quiz will identify which of four phases best reflects the support that would be most useful to you right now: Restoration, Grounding, Alignment, or Embodiment. It will also ask about what you're navigating, how you prefer to receive support, and how you would participate in a community so we can understand which Healing yOUR Life resources or offers may fit you.

No phase is better or more advanced than another, and your phase can change as your life and needs change. Choose the answer closest to your current experience. Try not to overthink it.

Your pronouns, location, budget, and communication choices do not affect your phase result.

Set aside approximately 10 minutes. You can answer briefly or go into more depth wherever space is provided. At the end, you'll receive one phase result and your next steps.

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Are you 18 years of age or older? *

Yes

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What main pronouns should we use when referring to you?Pronouns *

What time zone should we use for scheduling and communications?Time Zone *

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In your own words, what responsibilities are you struggling with most right now?

When you join the community focused on personal growth, which statement comes closest to how you see your responsibility to the other members?

We should help keep each other on the right path. I believe that includes challenging personal beliefs or choices I disagree with, even when no community rule has been broken.

I’m responsible for being honest. If someone feels hurt or judged by what I say, I generally see that as something for them to work through rather than a reason to reconsider my delivery.

I’m responsible for participating respectfully, protecting others’ privacy, and respecting their boundaries. If I overstep, I’m willing to hear that and adjust.

I’m mainly there for my own learning and growth. I may participate quietly, but I still have a responsibility to respect the people and boundaries of the space.

I feel responsible for helping people recognize what they need to change. If I have useful advice, I believe sharing it is part of being supportive—even when they haven’t asked.

I haven’t really thought about this before. I’d need to understand the community’s expectations before knowing what my role should be.

A member shares a difficult experience involving a personal choice you strongly disagree with. She says, “I’m looking for support, not advice.” Her choice doesn’t involve harm or violate community rules, but some replies are already getting heated. Which response comes closest to what you would actually do?

I’d explain my concerns. If I think she’s making a mistake, being supportive means being willing to tell her—even when that isn’t the response she wanted.

I’d add my perspective if others were already challenging her choice. Hearing the same concern from several people might help her take it more seriously.

I’d message her privately with my advice. That feels more considerate than correcting her in front of everyone.

I might have a strong opinion or feel the urge to offer advice, but I’d respect what she asked for and respond to the part she wants support with.

I’d try to understand her experience and offer support without needing her to share my beliefs or make the choice I would make.

I’d leave the post alone if I couldn’t contribute supportively. I don’t need to participate in every discussion.

When a mentor you trust suggests that you may be contributing to a problem you’re struggling with, what is closest to your usual reaction?

Once I’ve decided what the problem is, I’m not especially interested in suggestions that I might be contributing to it.

I’m mostly looking for someone to understand and support my perspective, not question it.

I might feel defensive at first, but I usually come back and consider whether there’s something useful in the feedback

I tend to assume I’m at fault and need help separating what is mine to change from what isn’t.

I’m willing to explore it, especially when the person takes time to understand my experience.

I want to understand their reasoning and consider my part, even if I ultimately disagree.

When you strongly disagree with guidance from a mentor you trust, what are you most likely to do?

Follow their advice anyway, because they probably know better than I do.

Pull away from them without explaining what I disagree with.

Keep my disagreement to myself at first, but bring it up once I’ve had time to think or feel more comfortable.

Ask questions, explain what doesn’t fit, and decide what I want to try.

Explain that I disagree, but stay open to hearing something that could change my mind.

If you chose to get support with the changes you want to make, which description comes closest to what you would want?

I want reassurance that I’m doing the right thing, without much questioning or challenge.

If I’m paying for support, I expect the person helping me to be responsible for whether I follow through.

I want clear steps to try, plus help adjusting them to my actual life.

I want help noticing patterns, questioning my assumptions, and making decisions that I then put into practice

I want frequent, individualized feedback, with room to adjust the support as things change. The decisions and practice are still mine

I mostly want useful information and tools I can work through on my own.

Preferred support format:

Do the people in your household fully support your goals?

Yes

In your own words, please tell me what prevents you from investing in support for your goals?

Last but not least, your Phase

Keep in mind that while many of the previous questions were more for market research and other things than determining your phase... They actually do help fine-tune your results.

If you decide to move forward with any level of support from HyL, those questions are crucial to determining how HyL can best help you.

If you decide not to move forward with any type of support from HyL and this was just a fun little quiz, as I said, those questions do help me out A LOT and they help fine-tune your results so please fill those out if you haven't already.

Now let's get down to business! Again, just be sure you answer what best suits your recent situation - you likely will resonate with multiple of the answer choices.

Thinking about the past month, which statement best describes where you most need support? *

I'm keeping things going, but it takes so much out of me that my own basic neeeds are often the first thing I drop.

I can usually cover the basics, but stress, strong emotions, or difficulty holding boundaries keep pulling me away from what I need.

I’ve experienced meaningful personal growth recently, or I’ve been seriously exploring it. I can keep everyday life moving, but I’m questioning whether it reflects who I am and what matters to me now.

I’ve made changes that fit who I am and what matters to me; I want help sustaining and adapting those changes as life changes.

Choose the closest answer, even if you recognize parts of yourself in several.

When an ordinary week becomes unexpectedly demanding, which pattern is most familiar? *

My own basic needs get pushed aside. I focus on getting through the day and struggle to recover enough energy to care for myself.

Stress or self-criticism takes over, and I struggle to settle myself enough to return to the routines and boundaries that usually help.

I generally maintain the basics of self-care, even during stressful weeks, but I still struggle mentally, physically, emotionally, or spiritually.

I’m still clear about which changes fit me, but I struggle to adapt them to the disruption without abandoning them or becoming too rigid.

Choose the closest answer based on your recent experience.

When a difficult feeling comes up, which statement best describes what usually happens next? *

I’m often too depleted or overwhelmed to do much beyond getting through the moment; understanding the feeling usually has to wait.

I can tell something is happening, but naming the feeling, settling my body, or pausing before I react is difficult.

I usually understand what I’m feeling and what I need; the challenge is responding consistently when that response feels unfamiliar or uncomfortable.

I can usually name what I’m feeling, but I’m still working out what it reveals about my needs, values, relationships, or direction.

Choose the closest answer based on your recent experience.

When you face a meaningful decision about your life, which statement comes closest to what makes it difficult right now? *

Stress, guilt, fear of conflict, or other people’s expectations make it difficult to separate what I want and trust my judgment.

I have so little mental and emotional space left that I tend to focus on the needs and responsibilities directly in front of me.

I can consider my options, but I’m still deciding which choice best reflects my values, relationships, priorities, and the person I’m becoming.

I usually know which choice fits me; the challenge is following through when it requires discomfort, disappointing someone, or leaving a familiar pattern.

Think about decisions involving your needs, relationships, routines, or direction—not minor everyday choices.

When you make a change that genuinely matters to you, which pattern is most familiar over time? *

I can maintain a change, but sometimes realize the goal or plan does not fully fit my needs, values, relationships, or current life.

I can begin, but stress, disrupted routines, self-criticism, or difficulty holding boundaries make it hard to return after I’m pulled away.

I’m already using most of my capacity to manage everyday life, so even a helpful change can become one more thing I cannot consistently carry.

The changes generally fit me and I can practice them. The challenge is keeping them flexible and resilient as my circumstances change.

Choose based on what usually happens after the initial decision or motivation.