How Are You Showing Up?
When stress shows up I typically
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Go quiet and take time to think it through on my own
Check on the people around me and make sure they're okay
Make a plan and start moving
When stress hits I struggle most with
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Sitting still with things I can't fix or control
Talking about it before I've sorted out how I feel
Putting my own needs on the list when other people have needs too
When others try to give me advice during stressful times, I often
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Thank them, then worry about letting them down if I don't follow it
Nod, then take it away to think about privately
Listen, then do it my own way
At the end of a demanding day, my thought is usually
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“Keep going. There's no time to fall apart.”
“Everyone else is struggling. I should be helping.”
“Step back. Figure it out before you say anything.”
When I'm under a lot of stress and someone asks me how I am, I usually
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Say “fine” and change the subject, or need a while to answer
Give the short, capable version. I'm handling it.
Turn it around and ask how they are
When I think about my own self-care and inner life, I normally
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Say yes to more than I can hold, especially when someone needs me
Shut down and let things pile up before I ca)n face them
Take charge, push through, and crash later
In stressful times, I need
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Someone who lets me lead and doesn't hover
Someone who notices everything I'm carrying and gives me permission to rest
Someone who gives me room and doesn't need me to explain
Complete this honestly: when overwhelmed by stress I can become
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Numb, foggy, or far away from people
Worn out, and quietly hurt that no one seems to notice
Wound tight and short with the people around me