Is your intimate life where you want it to be?

In about 2 minutes, you’ll discover what’s getting in the way of the passion, intimacy, touch, and connection you crave. Your answers are completely private, confidential, and held with love. Click “Next” to begin.

What is your gender?

Woman - I'm a Queen

Man - I'm a King

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1. Do you wish you were making love more often? *

Yes, desperately — Are you kidding? I'm in a full-on drought over here. My bed has tumbleweeds.

Yes, quite a bit I'd love a lot more — We connect sometimes, but I'm left wanting most of the time.

A little more would be nice — It's pretty good! But I wouldn't say no to extra joy and pleasure.

Nope, I'm fully satisfied — We make love as often as I want. My cup runneth over!

2. Do you want sex more often than your partner does? *

Way more, all the time — I'm always the one initiating, and I hear "not tonight" more than "yes, please."

Often more — I usually want it more, but my partner often comes around.

No, my partner wants it more than I do — They're usually the one initiating.

We're perfectly matched — We’re usually both in the mood at the same time. Like we're in sync, dancing to the same song.

(Single? Think about your past relationships. Was there a pattern?)

3. How happy are you with how often you orgasm? *

Rarely or never satisfied. Ugh… I’m starved— my orgasm plate is basically empty.

Sometimes satisfied. It’s hit or miss — Some weeks feel nourishing, others leave me hungry.

Mostly satisfied. It’s good — I’m getting dessert, but I would love even more sweetness.

Completely satisfied. Totally blissed out — perfectly nourished and loving every bite.

4. How many orgasms do you typically have per week? (Think about the last month—solo and partnered) *

0 – None... Orgasms? What orgasms? My bed is quieter than a meditation retreat!

1–7.... A few each week — enough to keep me smiling, but I wouldn’t say no to more.

8–29... I’m pretty much an Orgasm Queen or King.

30+... Overflowing with multi orgasmic bliss — I’m practically radiating fireworks!

Note: There’s no “right” number. Your ideal is unique to you.

5. How true is this for you? “I feel starved for touch, love, and connection.” *

Totally true — I’m in a love-and-touch famine over here!

Somewhat true Yeah… I could definitely use a lot more hugs, kisses, and closeness.

A little true. I’m doing okay — but a little extra TLC wouldn’t hurt.

Not at all. I feel completely fed, nourished, and overflowing with love, touch, and connection.

6. How deeply do you feel wanted and desired in your sex life? *

Rarely or never. Ugh… I feel more like a forgotten houseplant than a desired person.

Sometimes. I see occasional glimpses of feeling wanted. But many days… crickets.

Often. Oh yes, I feel wanted — but I wish it were even more passionate.

Intensely. I’m like a mermaid swimming in a sea of love - feeling deeply desired and treasured.

7. How many different types of orgasms have you explored? (Examples: Clitoral, G-spot, cervical, prostate, nipplegasm, heartgasm, full body orgasm, energygasm, moneygasm, analgasm, multiple orgasms, etc.) *

Just one or two – and yep, I’m sooo curious for more.

A few – I’ve dipped my toes in, but I’m craving more adventure.

Several – I’ve explored a bunch but know there’s still more magic ahead.

All of them, Babe! I’m an orgasmic explorer!

8. How long is your typical intimate experience? *

Quickie. 5-15 minutes. It's over before I've even warmed up — and I'm left wanting so much more.

We go 20-30 minutes. I can feel my body starting to wake up and then... it stops.

We go 45-60 minutes — and it feels good. But I know my body is capable of something far more expansive and we haven't quite gotten there yet.

Long luxurious lovemaking. We take hours. I arrive fully in my body and leave completely satisfied.

9. How lit up do you feel in your daily life? Think of your joy, confidence, creativity, and financial abundance. *

Rarely or never. Honestly? I feel “meh,” dull or drained most days. Like I’ve lost my spark.

Sometimes. I notice hints of joy in my life.

Often. I feel inspired and energized most days — but I know there’s more possible.

Totally. I’m totally lit up — glowing with joy, confidence, creativity, and abundance!

10. How comfortable are you owning and expressing your sexual desires? *

I keep my desires almost entirely hidden. I feel shame or embarrassment about how much I want.

I share some of what I want but hold back the full truth of my desire.

I'm fairly open about my desires but still have edges of discomfort.

I own my desires fully and express them without shame or apology.

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