Are You Leading Your Family or Just Living With Them?

5 questions that reveal the gap between the leader your family needs and the one they currently have

A Free Self-Assessment for Christian Husbands and Fathers

Most Christian men are not bad husbands and fathers.

They are unprepared ones.

They love their families genuinely. They provide consistently. They show up. But if you asked their wife tonight honestly, privately whether she feels led by her husband or simply lived with by him, the answer might surprise you.

This assessment is not designed to condemn you. It is designed to show you clearly where you are so you can decide with intention where you are going.

Answer every question honestly. Not the way you wish it were. The way it actually is.

That honesty is the beginning of everything.

Dr. AL Simmons

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THE 5 QUESTIONS

Each one below is its own quiz question. Scale is 1 (rarely) to 5 (consistently) for all of them.

Question 1: Identity. When your family faces a difficult decision, do they look to you for direction or does the decision get made around you? *

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What this reveals: Whether you are functioning as the leader of your home or a participant in it.

THE 5 QUESTIONS

Each one below is its own quiz question. Scale is 1 (rarely) to 5 (consistently) for all of them.

Question 2: Covenant. Does your wife feel genuinely known by you her fears, her hopes, what she carries privately or does she feel more managed than understood? *

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What this reveals: Whether your marriage is being led or simply maintained.

THE 5 QUESTIONS

Each one below is its own quiz question. Scale is 1 (rarely) to 5 (consistently) for all of them.

Question 3: Legacy. Could your children tell someone what you believe, what you value, and why you follow Jesus or do they know your job title better than your convictions? *

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What this reveals: Whether you are fathering with intention or on autopilot.

THE 5 QUESTIONS

Each one below is its own quiz question. Scale is 1 (rarely) to 5 (consistently) for all of them.

Question 4: Integrity. Are you the same man in your living room at 8pm that you are at church on Sunday morning or is there a gap between your public and private self that your family has noticed even if they have never named it? *

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What this reveals: Whether your family can trust your consistency or is managing around your inconsistency.

THE 5 QUESTIONS

Each one below is its own quiz question. Scale is 1 (rarely) to 5 (consistently) for all of them.

Question 5: Direction. Do you have a written, specific vision for your family where you are leading them spiritually, relationally, and practically or are you responding to whatever this week brings? *

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What this reveals: Whether you are leading your family somewhere or simply going through the motions with them.

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