Can someone make you feel anger?
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Yes
No
Sometimes
After getting angry do you ever regret your actions?
Yes often
Yes sometimes
Never
Have you ever thought you were wrong after you got angry?
I would never get angry unless I was right
Sometimes when someone explains things differently to me
Yes most often
Would you ever apologise for hurting someone?
No If they are hurt they deserve what they get
Yes I would want to make things right when I've calmed down
Yes absolutely. I feel really bad if I hurt someone
Do you ever get angry but not express it and then seethe afterwards?
Yes quite often as it is risky to show my anger
No because I find it easy to express what I am angry about to resolve the issue.
Very unlikely because if someone has made me angry they need to know about it
No because when I'm angry I cannot hold it in
Does this describe you? "When I get angry I cannot hold it in"
Yes that describes me well
No, it is usually too dangerous to get angry
Not really, I rarely get outwardly angry but I usually find a way to get someone back
It is generally more important to contain anger and then discuss the issue at a later time
Do people sometimes believe you are angry when you don't feel angry?
No one has every suggested that and I don't believe it is true.
Yes I'm often accused to being angry when I'm just being quiet.
When I'm angry it's obvious to everyone
If they think that I would prefer they keep their opinions to themselves
Have you ever been so angry that you cannot remember why you were angry or what you said.
Yes sometimes
That has occasionally happened and I was really confused afterwards
No. I never lose self control otherwise it would give the other person an advantage.
When I express anger I am always aware of what I say and why I am angry
Do you fear that your anger could really hurt someone and they would never speak to you again?
Yes so it's best never to get angry
Not really if they don't like it then that is their problem
I always have a good reason to be angry so that isn't a concern of mine
No I think anger is part of a healthy relationship. It's how it is expressed that is important
When someone has hurt you are you able to forgive them?
Yes I think it is important to find a way to forgive people
Once I've been angry I can forgive and forget
I find it har to forgive someone who has hurt me
Never because they have shown that they are untrustworthy
Do you ever get angry with the wrong person?
Yes I often get angry with my partner when it wasn't their fault.
Yes sometimes but that's going to happen at times.
No I'm always clear who I am angry with and why.
I tend to really think through what I want to say and why so we can find a good resolution
Do you become more angry with yourself than you do with other people?
Yes, no one deserves my anger except me
I have never had reason to be angry with myself but I have with other people
I generally don't know who or what I am angry with until I've expressed it
I tend to be angry with myself and with good reason
If you don't like someone does almost everything they do irritate or annoy you?
Yes it can be hard to keep cool then someone is obviously annoying
Yes of course, I don't like them for a reason
I never spend time with someone I don't like
Yes that sometimes happens and I don't understand why they get to me so much
Before you show anger do you usually get your story straight so you can fully inform them of everything they have done?
Yes because it's important to be clear about the issue because that's the best way to resolve things
I never really think before I get angry
Definitely. It is important that they know so that can adjust their behaviour
No because I rarely get angry and I never really know what I am angry about
Are you more likely to be angry with someone you dislike rather than because of what they have done?
I don't think so I usually just get angry before I've noticed what or who I'm angry with
It's irrelevant whether I like them or not. If they've done something wrong I'll tell them
I tend to feel anger with what people do rather than who they are
Yes it is easier to be angry with people I don't like because I don't care if it upsets them
Do you often feel other people's anger and therefere need to make sure you are ready for the conflict?
I do but I will just ask them about it
Yes I prepare by knowing what I can criticise them for
I have't a clue if other people are angry and it doesn't concern me
Yes and I get anxious when someone is angry so I withdraw to protect myself
Do you think that anger is a sign of power?
Yes it's the only sign of power I know
Yes it is the best way to get someone to do what you want them to do
No really I see assertiveness as an expression of personal power
I feel other people are powerfull when angry but I don't.
When you get angry with someone do you ever feel guilty or hate yourself?
Yes anger is a bad thing which never achieves anything
Yes I do sometimes if I have been angry when I shouldn't have
Never because I always know why I am angry
Not really because I tend to express anger in ways which is I feel is right for me
If someone hursts or offends you will yo endeavour to get even?
Yes absolutely they deserve what is coming
I think that is a waste of time and energy
I would instantly get angry with them and they'd regret what they did to me
No because I don't like conflict so I'd just absorb it
Do you ever avoid anger in yourself and others?
Yes I hate getting into conflict
No because anger is a great way to clear the air
Conflict needs to be met head on
No because I think avoiding anger never leads to a good outcome
Do you sometimes feel so low you imagine not existing?
Yes I have sometimes wondered what's the point of it all
Never they are always things in life to enjoy
I've never felt that low and never will
Which of these things are you most likely to get angry about?
Trying to do something and it just not working out
When someone constantly does sooemthing in the wrong way
Someone criticising me when I haven't done anything wrong
Someone cancelling at the last minute and really letting me down
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